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1. How much do other people express their dissatisfaction 
2. How much do you emphasize/imagine potential dissatisfaction 

3. How much do you unconsciously take that into account in your choice 
4. How much do you consciously take that into account in your choice

Simple way is that you do not know 2. And assume that others overexpress 1. Than you should just care less and – largely – only pursue what you want. That requires knowing what you want though which can be tricky if you have taken the happiness of others as your guide to good behaviour.

(Do a Venn-Diagramm here in the future)